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I don’t know how you do that

“I don’t know how you do that” is a common sentiment that most foster parents hear through their time fostering. It’s usually followed with I couldn’t do that, I’d get too attached. The not-so-secret secret is: so do we. We get too attached. Our hearts break for our kids. And yes, they will always be …

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7 Facts about Adoption

November is Adoption Awareness month! President Reagan proclaimed the first National Adoption Week; President Clinton expanded the awareness to the entire month of November. So let’s talk about 7 facts about adoption. 108,000 Kids are waiting to be adopted out of Foster Care: I talked a little on my mamashannan TikTok about what this number means. This …

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Dealing with Foster Disappointment

So we’re still trying to finalize the details of the last placement, so that’s slowing down our house being back on the list in one of the main counties our agency gets referrals from. We are getting calls from other counties, but either the situation hasn’t been a good fit or we haven’t been picked. …

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Our first kids came and went

The trick of blogging about foster care is how quickly things can change. Our first kids came and went the weekend before thanksgiving. Even though we only had the kids for five days, it was as terrible as you would guess. Now my heart is even more with the parents that say goodbye after 2 …

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The Waiting

We are in the waiting. We passed all our home study and Saturday we took our policy and procedures class. Because we are open to sibling sets of two or three, it’s likely we’ll get kids quick, but we joke that we probably won’t get any till I’m out of town at my conference in …

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Foster Care

So one of the things I want to do here is talk about our foster care experience. It’s something I’ve wanted to do since college, and thankfully, my husband is on board.  I never was the girl that couldn’t wait to have babies, but I’ve always wanted kids. When I found out there was  a …